In honor of a friend who's struggling with a break up. He told me he is lonely and that he really feels the pain of and identifies with the following song he has been listening to by Weezer:
Tell me there's a logic out there.
Leading me to better prepare
For the day that something really special might come.
Tell me there's some hope for me.
I don't wanna be lonely
For the rest of my days on the earth.
(from Weezer's "Perfect Situation")
I feel bad for him and it made me glad to see that he's beginning to open up about his break up. I didn't think he was dealing with it for months and I'm glad we're friends cuz, I go through the same feelings as he does with the loss of intimacy with my loved ones and because men aren't usually very honest with each other about this stuff and I believe that it is due to an unhealthy "macho man" image perpetuated mostly among western males.
Having lived in Asia, I was much more impressed with the healthy honesty about their emotional struggles as men. There is much more emotional connection in friendships between men in just about every culture I've been to around the world (Central America, South America and Asia).
We're not women, but emotions weren't given only to women. Men fall in love, too. Men hurt, too. Men cry, too. And men need comfort and a listening ear, too.
Check out a Bollywood flick some time if you want to see healthy male emotion.
I was glad to get to be there to hear him out. He's hurting. God, please heal his broken heart.
Thursday, December 11, 2008
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I have recently been researching this topic myself. Reading psychological papers seems a bit skewed because they all seem to be written by American or British psychologists and thus lean heavily toward a paradigm in which males are not normally emotive. In my travels, I have also noticed that males in other countries such as Italy or Latin America or the Middle East tend to be much more emotive than men in the UK or U.S. I do not understand the difference in cultures and how boys are raised differently. I would really like to see something on this topic. Mostly for my own sanity as a wife and mother of males.
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